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Most people have heard of postpartum depression, but did you know that Dads also suffer from depression? It is called ‘paternal depression’ and it is a common condition for fathers.
1 in 10 fathers experience this during pregnancy or after birth.
It is important to note that feeling anxious, depressed or overwhelmed at times is a common experience for Dads. Becoming a parent is one of life’s biggest transitions! The difference with parental depression is that it is a type of sadness that never goes away. This can affect the father-child relationship, as well as the child’s development, so it is important to find ways to help fathers in situations like this. The good news is that there are a variety of medications and health professionals who can help.
What are the warning signs to look for?
It is important for both parties to understand and watch for any signs that the father may be experiencing symptoms of depression. This may include:
- Feeling sad or miserable all the time, constantly (or feeling numb and empty)
- Being very angry, or experiencing anger
- Blame is blaming yourself for everything
- Suicidal ideation
- Isolation and isolation
- Don’t enjoy things like before
- Loss of interest in sex
- Sleep problems (not dependent on the child’s sleep)
- Some behaviors that may indicate that a father is struggling and needs help include:
- Avoiding domestic life by working full time
- Excessive use of alcohol or other drugs
- Doing risky things like dating
What friends/friends/family can do to help Father?
Fortunately, there is much that loved ones can do. Try asking him about it. Don’t try to fix anything, just listen and try to understand his point of view. Your understanding of her experience can go a long way in helping her feel supported. Express your gratitude to him as his friend, and as a Father. Ask him what he wants. Give him a heads up – share this article or show him some of the things listed below.
Encourage him to tell a trusted friend about his problems. Encourage him to have time for his own activities, for example, fun and socializing – it is very important that he maintains his interests and social connections at this time. Remind them that depression in men is a common condition in men. It is not a sign of weakness or proof that he is failing as a Father/friend.
Where to go for professional help:
There are many professional therapists who can help men with depression symptoms. They can try:
Talking to her GP – who can help her directly and link her to other resources
Talking to a Psychologist – APS ‘Find a Psychologist’ 1800 333 497
GLOW Clinic supports men in Melbourne’s South East – 03 9769 5606
Join a Dads group – connect and get support from other Dads
PANDA has a website called How’s Dad Going? is a helpline for mental and emotional issues related to parenting 1300 726 306
COPMI provides informational support for families, including The Importance of Being a Dad, which is designed for fathers in families where a parent has a mental illness.
MensLine Australia offers support and advice – 1900 789 978
beyondblue offers a Father’s Guide and offers phone support on 1300 224 636
It is important to remember that people who are depressed can still be good parents. But it’s also important to get help when you need it. Calling in some professional help can help ensure that Dad receives the best treatment available to help him recover.
About the Author:
Dr Anthony Mackie is a registered Clinical Psychologist and father specialist @ GLOW Clinic. Anthony has a great passion for working with fathers and helping them as they adjust to life’s challenges. She has a special interest in the science of communication and communication, and how it can help build strong and healthy relationships.