Whether you’re about to have your first child or your tenth, the thought of giving birth can be overwhelming. And while you can’t predict every aspect of the event, there are ways to plan for the perfect birthday trip. Here are 10 birth mistakes moms make most often – birth mistakes you can avoid so you can prepare to the best of your ability.
1. Don’t Do Your Research
Some women skip birthing classes or take out books to get a sense of freedom, which makes sense! But skipping research means missing out on important information that will help you make better decisions during the work process. When the time comes, you may be asked questions such as, “Do you want pain relief?” or “Would you like us to give your child Vitamin K?” These are decisions you want to think about ahead of time, so take the time to learn about your options. My thoughts on higher education are: at the bottom of this post.
2. Consistency
Having a birth plan is good; it shows that you have done your homework and thought about the birth you want. However, some women are very attached to their schedule and feel defeated if things change. Birth doesn’t always go as expected, so while it’s good to expect the birth you envision, remember to expect the unexpected. Flexibility will help you stay in control, no matter what.
3. Ignoring What You Feel Is Right For You
Many women are told to lie on their back during labor, but this position is not right for you; it is generally good for health professionals. In many cultures, women naturally give birth while kneeling or crouching, which can reduce labor time and pain. Look at different birthing centers and listen to your body—work is your experience, so it’s important to do what you feel is best.
4. Not Eating and Drinking Enough
Unless you are planning a cesarean section or have other medical risks, it is best to eat lightly and stay hydrated. Many women stick to the ice, thinking that it will be enough, but work requires energy! Not eating or drinking can make you feel tired more quickly, which can lead to a more difficult birth.
5. Don’t relax
Working out is hard, but it doesn’t have to feel like an extreme sport. Too much pressure can make a job last longer, because tight muscles can slow things down. Practicing relaxation techniques, such as massage or deep breathing, can help reduce pain and improve breastfeeding later. Remember, birth is a natural process, and staying calm can make a big difference.
6. Worrying About Your Appearance
Some women feel the need to look their best, even when giving birth, and arrive at the hospital with makeup and dyed hair. That’s fine, but for now, how you look will be the last thing on your mind. Instead, focus your energy on bringing your child into the world!
7. Not Prepared Physically and Mentally
Working until your due date can be important, but it’s important to prepare yourself physically and mentally for work. Women who have been strengthening their bodies with moderate exercise or using a birthing ball often have less pain. (Spending time on a birthing ball before birth can get your body used to the birthing position and help tone muscles, making labor easier.) If time is tight, even a quick online birthing class can help you get ready.
8. Thinking You Have To Endure Pain To Be A Successful Childbirth
Contrary to popular belief, there is no medallion born without medicine. Many women are pressured to avoid pain, thinking that they “must” go through it. But the truth is: Once your child is born, the way you gave birth will not affect anyone but you. If you want pain relief, go for it—there’s no shame in doing what’s best for you.
9. Fear of Speaking
Your doctor or midwife may be an expert, but no one knows your body better than you. If something doesn’t make sense, speak up! Communication is very important for a safe and healthy birth. Trust your instincts, and don’t be afraid to speak your mind.
10. Don’t Ask for Help
Getting through work alone is difficult, but there’s no need to be alone. A birth attendant — whether a friend, family member, or doula — can help, from helping you stay calm to picking up snacks. Don’t hesitate to ask for help; having someone by your side can make a huge difference.
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Preparing for birth isn’t just about packing a hospital bag or knowing when to go to the hospital. By avoiding common mistakes, you can feel motivated and ready for the journey ahead. Here is beauty, inherent goodness!
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Paula Dennholt founded Easy Baby Life in 2006 and has been a parenting and pregnancy writer ever since. Her parenting and writing is based on studies in cognitive-behavioral and child support and her experiences as a mother and stepmother. Parental life has helped him realize the importance of putting relationships before the law. She strongly believes in proper parenting and a science-based approach.
Paula works with a group of pediatricians who help review and write stories.